I am always telling my son that not everything is about winning or losing, and sometimes the biggest enjoyment can come just from the thrill of the race.
This is usually when he is not the first of his friends to run to the bottom of the hill after school. Or, when he throws a strop because I beat him in a game of snakes & ladders or Connect 4. He does not like to lose, but I try to help him understand that losing can be good for you. It can make you better, stronger and more determined. Losing can make you try harder next time.
This is something seasoned losers like myself often say.
I did not win a blogging award this weekend. This is not unusual. I have been a finalist in the Brilliance in Blogging Awards, the bloggers’ equivalent to the Oscars, before. But this was my first time in the Writer category; a category I would not have even had the confidence to appreciate a year ago. It’s the big one. If this were the actual Oscars, I suppose it might be like being nominated for Best Actor or Actress. The Outstanding category would be Best Picture, Video would be Best Cinematography, and Style would be Best Costume Design.
I’d be a big fat liar if I told you I didn’t care about winning. Having not made it this far before, I dared to believe I might go all the way. More so as the award was being judged, and I know I don’t have the readership to get through on popular votes alone.
But there can only be one winner and it was not to be me. The winner of the best writer award was a brilliant and funny blogger called Northern Dad. Read this post here about his overstuffed bowl of crap and you will see why.
I made sure to congratulate and chat to Northern Dad after the ceremony, as even though I was feeling a bit sorry for myself, I was genuinely happy for him.
It would be very easy for me to think by losing, it means I was just not good enough; but that would not be fair to the people who nominated me. Besides, is Leonardo DiCaprio any less of an actor because he has never won an Oscar, despite being nominated 4 times? Johnny Depp, Tom Cruise, Glenn Close, Edward Norton, Amy Adams, Annette Bening, Harrison Ford, Michelle Pfeiffer and Robert Downey, Jr. are other famous nominees, still yet to take home an Oscar statuette.
Of course not, it just means we did not win.
In many ways, it is a relief for it all to be over. The pressure of trying to write something funny, profound and/or clever has lifted. The self-doubt and nerves have subsided, for now. I can slip back into my little corner of the Internet, quietly do my thing and feel proud to have even been in the race.