They call them miracle babies, the ones conceived after years of unexplained infertility.
The couples who try and try and try and then one day, when they are least expecting it, when they have all but given up hope, something in the sky aligns, the timing is right and they are pregnant.
There are also many babies conceived on the first attempt. Couples who did not have to endure months of trying, the two-week wait that feels like an age, or the disappointment when the line does not turn blue. Again.
That was us.
The Greek God(zilla) and I got pregnant with our son on the first attempt. I did not have to pee on a single ovulation stick, keep a fertility diary, or consider assisted conception.
I did not really understand the struggle many other couples go through then. I had no idea of the feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, confusion and deep sadness that follows when it just doesn’t seem to work out.
Until we started trying for number two.
I think I assumed it would just happen for us quickly again. In fact, I was so convinced that it had worked the first time, that when my period arrived a couple of weeks later, I was genuinely shocked!
When it did not happen again the next month, or in any of the 6-months that followed, I purchased an ovulation predictor kit. I went for acupuncture. I started slipping the Greek God(zilla) vitamin C and zinc. I cut out caffeine, wine and wheat for half the month, then when my period inevitably arrived, I’d binge on it ALL. I thought I must be doing something wrong, as it had been so easy for us the first time round.
I cringed at how naive I had been before, how smug I must have sounded, and how insensitive I must have come across to anyone having a very different experience to me.
After about a year, I did fall pregnant, but our happiness was to be short-lived, as 11-weeks later we discovered our baby did not have a heartbeat.
I fell pregnant again about 3-months after that, but an early pregnancy scan confirmed the same thing had happened once more.
We were just too heartbroken to try again.
But, we have our boy, our beautiful boy, and our family feels complete.
He is my miracle baby. The one who came along when something in the sky aligned and the timing was right.
We just did not know it at the time.