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Parents Who Judge Other Parents

As parents, many of us have been on the receiving end of well-meaning parenting advice at some point and often from people who don’t have children of their own. Before I had my son, I certainly had my own idea of the kind of mum I would be; and now that I am one, the reality couldn’t be further away. I was going to be the parent with the well-behaved child, who ate everything on his plate, had impeccable manners and never a hair out-of-place. I was NEVER going to give him a dummy (I lasted 3-weeks), he was only going to eat fresh, locally sourced, organic food (pizza is our friend) and I would remain calm, patient and never raise my voice to him, EVER (hahahahahaha). None of us are perfect, but we are all doing the best we can with what we know. It is for the parent and child to work out such details as potty training methods, ways to discipline and breast or bottle feeding, together.  There is more than one way …

The Ghosts of Friendships Past

I read in The New York Times that Charlize Theron ended her relationship with Sean Penn by ‘ghosting’ him. Ghosting is a term used to describe a way of ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out. While I have no idea if the article is true, the act of vanishing from someone’s life without explanation seems to me a little harsh. Or is it? While I do not recall ghosting any past boyfriends, I am sure I have ghosted one or two platonic friendships over the years, although I did not know there was an actual term for it at the time. In my twenties, I approached new friends like an excited puppy, bounding towards them, wagging my tail and licking their face.  Inevitably, a few weeks later when we had run out of things to talk about, or wine, I would realise that we actually had nothing in common at all… and so the slow fade would begin. While remaining nice and cheery in tone, I would suddenly be briefed on a big work project that meant …

Are you a Radiator or a Drain online?

I think it was Oprah Winfrey who once said that people can be divided into two camps – radiators and drains.  Radiators beam warmth, kindness, love, happiness and enthusiasm. They smile when you walk into a room, are genuinely interested in others and make you feel good about yourself. Radiators bring out the very best in people. Drains have a more negative outlook on life and their glass is always half-empty. They can be self-absorbed, demanding and will often TAKE TAKE TAKE without ever giving anything back. Drains zap your energy levels with their constant need for reassurance and leave you feeling totally diminished. Drains are toxic. Over the years, I like to think I have got pretty good at differentiating between the two and tend to steer clear of mood hoovers. However, I have been less careful about letting drains into my online world and I have recently noticed that my timeline has become infested with them. Online drains take to twitter to complain that someone else just got sent a packet of biscuits and they did not. They DM people to ask how they got …

How to Work from Home During Half-Term

Set your alarm for 5am to get a head start on your inbox before everyone wakes up. Be careful not to turn on the TV or radio in case your 5-year old hears and thinks it is Scooby Doo time. If you must use the loo, DO NOT FLUSH. Also make sure you do not switch on any lights that may alert the sleeping people that you are awake. Sit in the dark, in silence and let the light of your iPhone guide you. You have 1 hour. GO! Once you have made a cup of tea and deleted newsletters you can’t ever seem to unsubscribe from, it is time to crack on with client work. Ignore the Facebook and Twitter notifications that you missed the night before because you went to bed at 9pm. Four will be from people you don’t know commenting on a photo you liked, of someone you vaguely remember; and one will be a new follower on twitter, probably from a spam account. Try to squeeze 4-hours work into 30-minutes. Sorry, make that 10. You …

Scared of Blogging

I’ve been writing about my life on the internet for a little over 4-years.  I have told stories about my family, shared my experiences of miscarriage, confided many of my insecurities, and trusted you with all the wonky bits of my personality. When I first started writing this blog, only 2 people read it and one of them was me! Sharing your life with the internet is scary.  People you do not know will read it and come to a conclusion about who you are.  Some of the responses you get will be overwhelmingly positive, and others not so much.  But, I never really worried about what the people living inside my laptop thought about me. In my mind, they are not real.  I know if it ever gets too much, I can just close the lid and make them go away. But when the people you know in real life read your blog, they often want to talk to you about it.  Everyone you know, knows all your business. I have been stopped in the supermarket to talk about miscarriage, and asked on the school …